An etiquette expert has revealed the luxurious way to eat cake – and it all depends on what kind of bread you’re eating.
Lucy Challenger, 38, based in London and Berkshire, is the founder and CEO of upscale Mayfair agency Polo and Tweed, which provides staff for wealthy Uber customers.
She is also the creator of TikTok, and has garnered more than eight million likes for her videos that teach Generation Z social media users the basic manners and etiquette they need to fit into the upper echelons of society.
In a recent video, Lucy outlined the proper formal way of eating cake, in a British setting, explaining: “Depending on what kind of cake you are served, it will depend on how you eat it.”
She continued, “If a dry cake is served, such as a pound cake, you will cut it into small pieces with your fingers, then eat it well with your hands.
Lucy Challenger (pictured) is a businesswoman and creator of TikTok content who often makes videos about etiquette. In this video, I covered the correct way to eat cake in an official place
Lucy explained in the video that there are different ways to eat cake, depending on what you eat
Wet cake, for example, cheesecake, you can use a fork and spoon if necessary.
With an ice cream cake, for example, you can use a fork and spoon. The fork is used to hold the cake, then the spoon is used to cut the food and transfer it to your mouth.
And the rules of etiquette do not stop there. Things get even more complicated if the dessert is accompanied by any sauces, for example, custard, for which you will use a spoon.
However, a fork can be used to eat the berries, which are often served alongside custard.
When it comes to cake, pie, or crepes served the way up (with ice cream on the side), they can be eaten with either a fork or spoon or both.
For hard desserts, such as boiled pears, you can switch the way you use the utensils.
“The spoon will be used for chopping, and the fork will be used to bring the food to your mouth,” Lucy explained.
A birthday cake or a layer cake, which is served upright, must be turned on its side with a fork and spoon, then either tool can be used to eat it.
Eating a cake is not as easy as it may seem at first, if you are eating it in a formal setting, as there are some specific rules to follow, as shown in the video
Lucy explained that eating with a fork is not usually acceptable in formal British dining venues, but it is okay to eat with a dessert fork.
Then the etiquette expert went on to introduce another piece of cutlery to the cake-eating arsenal: a dessert fork, specially designed to help slice and chop food.
‘To eat my cheesecake,’ said Lucy, I take my dessert fork. I cut the cheesecake, separating a small portion.
“Now depending on the density of the cheesecake, I spear the cheesecake with a fork, then put it in my mouth to eat.”
The less dense cheesecake can be loosened from the top.
Remember usually in formal British dining we don’t use a fork, however, it is perfectly acceptable to eat with a dessert fork.
“Between each bite, you can place the fork neatly on the side of the plate, then you can continue to enjoy the cheesecake when you are ready.”
A number of TikTok users took to the comments section to express their opinions on the video, some praised the advice, while others revealed that they weren’t the best at etiquette, but enjoyed Lucy’s content.
The detailed instructions struck a chord with etiquette-loving viewers, who praised Lucy in the video.
One wrote: “What a sweet, some of my friends from law school are having a dinner tomorrow, I’ll host it and the desert will be cheesecake.”
Meanwhile, another joked: “I find the most challenging part of cheesecake is taking time between bites to set the fork.”
A third added: “A British gem.”